I am the type of guy that has never really cared about a potential girlfriends past or future relationships. My mindset is very different from probably anyone you have ever met before. If you were to meet me in real life I would be shy but I would have this quiet confidence. In the back of my mind I am always thinking that “no guy that this girl can date can ever be better than me.”
Well minichat sign up, it is very arrogant I am not going to lie but this is seriously the mindset I have. Deep down I know that there are a lot of people in this world and there is probably someone out there better than me but I always convince myself that I am the best. I don’t think I do it because I am trying to be conceited I am doing it because it will give me the mindset I need to have to be the best boyfriend I can possibly be. However, it also serves another very important purpose. It creates this strange confidence in myself and I rely on that confidence to get me through any interaction I have with a potential girlfriend.
I have a lot of experience dealing with women who have been hurt by a boyfriend in this situation (1700 comments of experience ;). Oh, and writing a book.) One thing I constantly notice is that women in this situation have really low self esteem. You know what really turns me off as a man about a woman? One that has zero confidence.
I want you to have the arrogant “I am the best attitude.” I want you to get confidence from that. Sure, it may not be true at first but say it enough in your head until it becomes true. It doesn’t have to be an arrogant thing either. Use that mindset to work towards actually being the best version of yourself that ever existed if you feel that at the current moment you aren’t (that’s what I do.)
THAT is really what this is all about. Sure, he is dating another girl and sure it hurts but the more reliant you become on him and his actions the less likely you will be to get him back. Having the “I am the best” attitude will free you from being totally reliant on his every move. It will give you something else to focus on for a while.
Two HUGE Factors You Can’t Ignore
Before we start figuring out the actual “steps” that will be required in order to get your ex boyfriend back there are two big factors that we need to cover. These factors are so important that they will dictate how you approach your particular situation. They will also be a way in which you can determine if your situation is even worth trying.
Well, the first factor is the amount of time that elapsed before he started dating the new girl. Basically, I want you to imagine an imaginary timer. The second your breakup occurs this timer will start. Now, the timer will not stop until the moment his new girlfriend and him become “official.”
The second factor is a lot easier to understand. It is the amount of time that him and his new girlfriend have been dating. Pretty simple right?
The Amount Of Time Before He Started Dating The New Girl
Lets take a few moments and dive into each of these factors so we can determine why each of them are so important.