If only one person in a relationship has lost interest in sex within a monogamous relationship, Tracey says it’s important to find ways to meet the other partner’s needs. I loved hearing about the ways S and C and Shan and Jim learned to navigate their differing desires. If you’re looking for ideas to consider, definitely go back and listen.

Shan really exemplified this that Tracey told me. She said if you’re the person with lower desire in a relationship, keep in mind that there are other motivations for having sex.

This whole thing that desire is the only motivation for sex-I think we need to move away from that-because it’s not the only motivation. Even if you don’t want sex, you can get great satisfaction from satisfying your partner sexually, because you’re being generous. Lees verder →