• Few things are as predictive of long-term satisfaction in a relationship than having deeply compatible values.
• If the person you’re dating can’t express a handful of things that really matter to them and why, that suggests they don’t really know what their values are.
• And if the person your dating doesn’t know what their values are, how can you possibly tell whether they’re compatible with your own?

For example: When you’re in your 20s, maybe friendship really matters to you as a value. But when you’re in your 40s-with 3 kids and mortgage-maybe hanging out with your buddies isn’t quite as important as it once was compared to other values like family and financial stability.

So when I say be careful of dating someone who doesn’t know what they want, it doesn’t mean they have to be strictly adhering to this or that formal value system. Lees verder →