The three kinds of sexual relationships occur on different planes.

Did that title get your attention? No, this isn’t a “bait and switch.” It really is about the differences between “hook-up sex,” “marital sex,” and “making love.” I’ve found that confusion about those differences play out in many of the conflicts people experience in their sexual-romantic relationships, no matter what their ages or kinds of relationships.

First, some clarification about what I mean by each term. “Hook-up sex” refers to a purely physical encounter. “Marital sex” is the kind of sex life that most committed couples tend to have-married or not, straight or gay. And “making love” is a different kind of experience that transcends both of the other two kinds.

That is, the three kinds of sexual relationships occur on different planes, different levels of integration between your physical, animal being, and your relational and spiritual beings. Lees verder →