OkCupid doesn’t have open messaging, meaning randoms can no longer message you before you two have matched. It’s genuinely overwhelming and I’d prefer to only be messaged by people I already gave the go-ahead to. (Bumble combat this by only letting women message first.)

“Under the new OKC I get about x5 as many matches. I send fewer messages and I receive higher quality responses. I believe this is all because of the requirement to match before messaging. Now women are required to seek out desirable profiles in order to interact with users on the site – just like the men. I also really like how doubletake has shown me interesting profiles that I wouldn’t have found with browsing .

I assumed that only annoyingly persistent men would dislike this change, but according to Reddit, a lot of ladies also aren’t feeling it either:

This can be good or bad depending on how you prefer the conversation to start: I personally enjoy it, as one main problem with online dating in general is that ladies get harassed by men who flood their inboxes

“I don’t like it because I can’t tell if someone’s a creeper just from a quick glance at their profile. Lees verder →