When I was afraid to approach women, I would go to places (like bars, clubs and social events) and hope that if I dressed up well enough, maybe a woman would make it really obvious that she wanted to talk to me (e.g. wave me over) or she might even approach me herself.
Back then, I didn’t know that women are completely open to being approached in social environments as long as a guy comes over in a confident, easy-going way. I thought Sikh und Single-Dating-Seite that women didn’t want to be bothered by guys and were simply out having fun.
In the movies, a shy, nervous male character will often have a beautiful, confident and sexy female character interested in him
I’d spend most of the night just looking at the women and imagining what I could say or do to get them to have “Wow!” reaction and really like me. Some women would look my way and I would try to maintain eye contact with them or smile, but nothing would ever happen.
Eventually, when I’d had enough drinks and was feeling drunk to the point of not caring about rejection anymore, I would muster up some courage to walk over and talk to some women, only to have them reject me for being drunk or coming across as nervous or awkward with them.
In the movies, standing alone at a party usually makes the male character seem “mysterious” and a beautiful, female character will then become curious to meet him.
The woman will often be shy herself (but really beautiful and innocent) and they will go down the path of the typical movie love story, where she rejects him initially and then he gets her in the end by being a good guy and saving the day, saving her or saving the world.
In the real world, women rarely approach men and being the guy who “saves the day” or does nice favors for women doesn’t get you laid.
In real life though, women are sexually turned OFF by shyness, nervousness and anxiety in guys
If you want to be successful at meeting women, you have to approach with confidence and then trigger the woman’s feelings of attraction for you. These days, women play hard to get and if a guy doesn’t know what he’s doing, he will usually get rejected or ignored by women when he tries to meet them.
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The script will play out and he’ll get her in the end and they’ll live happily ever after. Why? Women are attracted to the strength in men, not the weakness.
It is our mental and emotional strength as a guy that represents the most benefit for a woman in terms of her chances of survival, prosperity, happiness and safety.
Regardless of the advancements that some of our societies have made, a woman’s instinctive attraction to a confident guys still remains and I don’t expect it to ever change. If a guy goes through life being shy around women or doubting himself when talking to attractive women, he shouldn’t expect everything to magically fix itself like it does in the movies.
A man has to fix his issues (e.g. insecurities, anxieties, etc) about women and improve his ability to trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction for him, rather than expect that women will be gentle with him and accept his flaws when they could easily get a more confident, emotionally balanced man.